By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

The Case for Setting Boundaries 

When we are financially or emotionally dependent on patients saying “yes,” we crave acceptance which comes at cost: we are fearful of offending the person if we say, suggest, or do something that might trigger a “no,”—so we strategically modify our behavior to avoid rejection. 

On the other hand, independence allows us to adopt a course of action—a purpose that’s clearly justified in our mind, and accepting of the fact that some people might disagree and therefore their opinions will not influence how we feel about ourselves. So, independence involves respecting how others feel AND how we feel—a critical issue that’s known as psychological boundary. 

What’s Our Goal? 

Our goal should be to help others as much as possible—but not to manipulate them into making decisions or taking actions they would otherwise not make. If we feel like we cannot help someone, or if we believe helping a person in the way they are demanding is harmful long-term, then we simply need to find a way to respectfully agree-to-disagree, and move on. No need for moralistic stands. No need for judgment. We just need to continue our search for others who are in closer alignment with our purpose. 

As we become masterful at the execution of our purpose, we become known for it —we become “branded.” Once branded, more like-minded people can find us in the sea of other options and then make a higher level decision than “he/she is in my network.”  

Start with Personal Leadership 

Relationship-based, health-centered dentistry therefore starts with personal leadership and personal power. Who am I? What am I willing to stand for? What am I willing to share with the world? What am I unabashedly willing to promote because I believe in its value so deeply that I simply must promote it. And critically, HOW can I best promote it so that more people will be able to make better decisions for themselves that are more in alignment with our purpose, and that move them closer to an optimized health? 

“Know Thyself,” the ancient Greek appeal to greater self-awareness, is one of the four principles incorporated into L. D. Pankey’s “Cross of Dentistry.” But following this sage advice isn’t easy, as we’re pulled and pushed around by the environment; we’re constantly challenged to either adapt, resist, surrender or lead. 

Being Authentic Requires Regular Introspection 

Leading is only possible in patient-centered dentistry through authenticity—through clarified values aligned with a congruent vision and ACTION. Hence, without self-awareness, the seductions of life—the temptation to take shortcuts, and the trappings of materialism, can easily lead us away from our authentic self. What makes this process even more challenging is that when we feel threatened or rejected, we tend to do more of those things while blocking out how we truly feel. We lose ourselves in our pursuit of things that we think will sooth our anxiety.  

Gaining greater self-awareness through regular introspection is the starting point of a process that essentially never ends, but it represents the only pathway toward authentic leadership. Authentic leadership is an inside-out process that’s at the very core of patient-centered dentistry, which is why Dr. Pankey inscribed “happiness” as the outcome of his developmental philosophy. 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

Effective leadership in dentistry requires open-mindedness and empathy, while at the same time, assertiveness, consistency, adaptableness, and resilience.  

That’s a tall order! 

Many of us struggle to be assertive and empathetic at the same time, particularly when we are under pressure. All too often, we lean into our positional power and superior knowledge and don’t stop to ask ourselves: 

• How does the patient feel about my message? 

• Does the patient understand the long-term implications of the information I have presented? 

It’s important to remind ourselves that decision-making is a two-step process: 

Step 1: The recognition of accurate, relevant, timely, and important new information 

Step 2: Reasoning to make choices that align with values and goals 

Few people fully understand the nature of their problems, needs, and the complex processes necessary to realize their goals when they first come into our dental offices. Patients often behave dogmatically or too emotionally, which leads them to choices that result in more failure and frustration. 

Our ability to facilitate learning in others and lead them to decisions with predictably better outcomes can be developed. This is good news! With understanding, practice, and reinforcement through successful experiences, we can all learn how to become more effective leaders and develop a more successful practice. 

The 6 Key Steps to Effectively Guiding Our Patients 

1. Slow down and manage your time more strategically to spend more time with each patient.
2. Demonstrate empathy. Stay in conversation and ask questions to understand what they know and how they feel about the information you are giving them. 
3. Create a safe and effective environment for learning. This entails slowing down your delivery of information into the bite sizes that are appropriate for the patient and pausing often for their minds to catch up and for them to experience self-discoveries.  
4. Show deference for the fact that each person is the best expert regarding themselves, their feelings, values, and goals. Let them know you will support them in their process and invite them to learn more and weigh their new knowledge against their values, priorities, and long-term goals.
5. Give each person enough time to make complex decisions as well as work through the logistics necessary to make their decisions fit into their life.
6. 6. Remain clear and assertive about what is in the patient’s best health interests and consistent with your values. Only proceed with treatment decisions that are mutually agreed upon as appropriate.

By Edwin A. McDonald, DDS 

Case Study 1 

Early in my practice I was introduced to a periodontist in Dallas. We began a close working relationship for many years. He was a great mentor to me. His work was superb, and his patients had great experiences. He got to know our patients so well he could guide them to the best treatment decisions.  

One day we met, and he told me that he was retiring. I told him that he couldn’t do that to me! His response was that he had found the perfect person to partner and transition with. He had.  

The most important thing that happened was my mentor took the time and made the effort to communicate with me about what was happening. It made me realize that I was important and significant in all of this. The incoming periodontist, Ron, was a young version of his predecessor with the same meticulous surgical technique, superb results, and great patient experiences. In fact, in many ways he became better.  

Years later, Ron’s office is in the same location, just beautifully remodeled and updated. The hygienists remained for many years as did most patients and almost all referral sources. Ron has been extraordinarily successful. That makes me happy. He makes me a better dentist. 

In this case, the two periodontists were philosophically aligned, clinically similar, consistent in their judgement, and had great ability to build high trust relationships. Those four components created a powerful foundation to move smoothly from the past to a great future. 

Case Study 2 

Unlike the first case study, most transitions have gaps between the old and the new. In addition, often the existing practice needs an infusion of energy, a new and expanded mindset, and a more powerful vision to move toward what is possible. 

I have a friend that bought a very traditional relationship-based practice with tons of potential. He is different than his predecessor in his management style, approach to relationships, and desire to grow his practice. He has more than doubled it in just a few years. He also has had a complete turnover in the team. In this case, he needed a team that fit how he wanted to practice. He hired individuals who were prepared to embrace a new approach to practice.  

My friend needed to become a more effective leader of his team and develop a deeper understanding of how important they are to his current and future success. That meant investing more time and energy into getting to know everyone, communicating his career goals and learning about their career goals as they together cast a vision of the future …a worthy destination that honored the past as it created an abundant future. That meant leaving behind some beliefs, assumptions, and patterns of thinking as he matured and as they matured. 

“All of the stakeholders around a practice transition will embrace the change if they see the incoming dentist and new team members living the values that have kept them connected to the practice for many years, there is clear and frequent communication, there are genuine efforts at building trust, and there is an expressed understanding of what is mutually beneficial to all parties.”
–Dr. Edwin A. McDonald (LineofSightCoaching.com) 

By John C. Cranham, DDS 

 When I’ve looked at and really studied my practice numbers over the years, my favorite has always been productivity per hour. I have aimed to focus on a low volume of patients who need advanced dentistry. As my practice developed, I was able to earn more per hour on fewer patients. I was able to earn as much or more while working fewer hours, and my overhead went down because the office was open fewer hours. 

 Rather than just firing off from the hip and trying to make a treatment plan with the patient who is in the chair, I now invite them back for what I call an “advanced records visit.” Then I focus on making comprehensive records and studying those to create a well-thought-out treatment plan. The time spent planning the treatment may be an hour.  

 When you become good at treatment planning, it may take as little as 20 minutes. But the idea is to do better dentistry for your patients and get to where you are working on about 12 big cases each month. I have found that doing more than that is exhausting and makes it difficult to maintain general patients.  

 As you develop your reputation for being a “go to” dentist who solves problems, the big cases will flow in steadily. When you are planning a big case, you are generally working off a treatment plan where you’ve mounted models, you’ve studied photographs, and you’ve got an architectural plan of where you’re going. It’s very cerebral.  

 When you’re executing the plan, everything must be done in a specific way. So, in my office, we have time scheduled for executing planned dentistry—without interruption. We have another time scheduled for seeing general patients and moving between operatories. In the morning huddle, we review the plan for the day and decide where we can fit in an emergency appointment if one is needed. 

 Over the years, my schedule has changed. I’ve tried various schedules and had to experience them to know what works best for me. Now, I like to arrive at 6:00 AM, do my cerebral case workups in solitude, schedule patients with advanced needs in the morning, and have short afternoons for general dentistry. I don’t bother with lunch because I have determined that I don’t need that break in my day.  

 You’ll find what works for you. Keep in mind that your schedule might change over the years in response to patient needs, staff needs, family needs, and your pursuit of other activities. That’s okay. There is no perfect one schedule that fits all dental practices all the time.  

 Once I had a steady flow of big cases coming in and productivity per hour was high, I no longer felt the need to keep my office open long days or to offer evening appointments. I discovered that evening appointments were the ones patients most often cancelled. And when we cut back on our afternoon appointments a few years ago, patients were accepting once they heard it was because the team and I wanted to spend more time with our families.  

 You may discover that when there are fewer appointment slots available, your patient’s perceived value of them rises, and patient calls to cancel or reschedule diminish. 

 Starting out in practice means delaying the gratification of shorter workdays. It will take some time to get your steam engine rolling but stay the course, balanced with being kind to yourself so you can keep going. Keep your vision alive and educate your patients toward the comprehensive dentistry that will serve them best. Be patient. Your low-volume/high-earning productivity per hour will grow slowly and then faster. 

 At every stage of practice, I think there is one thing all dentists have in common. They relish the quiet hours when they are alone planning treatment. Those are the hours when they feel most at peace, most able to solve complex problems, and actively create plans for efficiently delivering dentistry. As a young dentist, you might experience this once per month, and after a few years, you may experience this nearly every day. Those quiet hours are powerful hours for driving productivity. 

By John C. Cranham, DDS 

Every hour you invest in your practice is an hour invested in your future, so invest time in thinking about how you are spending your time. 

I am often asked if I have advice for young dentists starting out in practice. As I reflect on my own experience in practice and on conversations with other dentists in private practice, several thoughts emerge.  

There will be times when you are working in a chaotic, undisciplined environment because you are trying to care for as many people as you can fit into your day. You will become physically and emotionally tired. At some point, you will recognize that you can’t go on that way. You will need to create more disciplined systems for you and your team. You will need to develop your team members, so they can do more and save you time. You will need to hold yourself and them accountable.  

A young dentist must understand that when you run around and do many procedures, you could be confusing activity with productivity. When you’re working on highly thought-out treatment plans, you’re sitting down, you’re doing more well-organized dentistry on fewer patients. You’re also usually executing the dentistry better, which means fewer remakes.  

How do you position yourself to have the luxury of working on those types of cases? The advanced CE at Pankey and other top programs will move you along, but you need to be patient with yourself…and your patients. You will be bringing them along with you through the opportunities you have to educate them about their oral health, where it is headed, and what can be done. Don’t assume you will achieve your goals fast. Eventually, you will become known as the go-to dentist to solve problems and the cases will flow.  

Know your patients. Be thoughtful about moving them along. Enjoy them as you do. 

I’ve written about this before…for the first few years I felt my colleagues were surpassing me. They were doing more advanced cases and utilizing what they were learning at Pankey and Dawson. I had purchased a tiny practice filled with patients who valued dentistry when they were in pain. I aspired to do more than fill cavities. Sometimes I thought I would have to give up on my dream. But I kept talking with my patients, building relationships, raising their awareness, and eventually they began accepting treatment. I had to stay hopeful and employ the behaviors I was being mentored to employ before I could employ my advanced clinical skills.  

I learned a lot about people, not just dentistry, in my early years. I look back upon the experience with fondness now. 

By John C. Cranham, DDS 

Every dentist finds it challenging to take time to train their team members.

Here are a couple of examples of how I’ve added time to my own day by advancing my team’s skills:

 I fired myself as the practice photographer. My goal was to have multiple people in my office who know our intraoral and extraoral image protocols and who can take the photos at the same high level of quality. To do this, I built “training time” in our schedule to teach photography. Now, while the patient is in the chair, I have the “photographer” show me the photos. We look at them quickly. Occasionally there is one that needs to be retaken, and I will explain why. The quality has become consistently high. By having multiple photographers in the office, my primary dental assistant can focus on something else when needed.  When I am working up a case, I often show them why I needed a specific photo. They take interest in their part of the process and the case. Engagement in their work rises. Always clearly share the why. 

I’ve also trained my team on how to fabricate deprogrammers. I’ve trained them all, checked their work, and explained the why behind our standard. We now have four people who can do that, too. This means we have a good product we offer patients and get it out in a timely manner when my primary assistant is busy.  When it comes to training your team, you will set a standard, and your team needs to know you are serious about it, but you can do this without being stern or making them feel bad. For example, in my office, if they take a bad photo or make an unacceptable deprogrammer, I explain why and ask them to retake the photo or remake the deprogrammer. As they redo something, they learn from their mistakes. I am patient with them. I tell them I made the same mistakes while I was learning. 

By Edwin “Mac” McDonald DDS  

Effective management during transitions directly impacts overall success. By implementing these strategies, you’ll lead your dental practice through change more smoothly. In Part 1 of this series, I described Phase One: The Ending Zone, the time during which a team is feeling the loss of the familiar and coping with uncertainty. In Part 2, I described Phase 2: The Neutral Zone, the time when a team is learning to embrace the change. Let’s look at what is likely to happen in Phase Three as a team continues to transition through change. 

Phase Three: New Beginnings  

During the third phase, the grieving is now passing or gone. This is when you and your team begin to identify yourselves (your culture) with “the new”—whether that be a practice ownership change, addition of more team members, merging with another dental practice, moving to a new office, updating your technology, adding a new niche service, dropping PPOs, or changing your operational systems (how you do things). The change is affecting their daily work and interactions with patients and each other. Adding to this burden is the tendency for patients to ask questions about the change. They also want to know about and feel connected to the change. Time and energy go into that additional communication. 

But, wonderfully, uncertainty is gone and things are clearer to the team members. Commitment becomes high again, and things start to feel “normal” again. People’s sense of competence is greater, they are able to easily identify the practice’s values to what is happening and how they are personally connected to them. When leaders and team members get to this stage, they can focus on the quality of the patient experience, and a new sense of commitment is felt. 

Strategies for Managing this Phase 

• Continue to talk with your team and individuals about how they are feeling about the change. 
• Acknowledge team members that have contributed to the changes. Doing this publicly cultivates trust and gives an example for others to follow. 
• Give individuals a part to play in sustaining the change and ensuring that it becomes the way of working or operating. People need to feel as though they are a part of it. Some leaders who have a hard time with delegating may need to practice letting go. 

Keep in Mind 

• Ultimately, the leader’s ability to communicate effectively will be the leading success factor in managing transition. 
• Approach other natural leaders in your practice – these are the people that others tend to follow or listen to , so get their buy-in early in the process. This will provide more support for you during the process. 
• Expect people’s performance to drop during the process and give grace to those that are not at their highest and best. Eventually, they will reach the other side and so will you! 

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

Dr. Rachel Naomi Remin says, “Doctor, you may know what’s best for the disease the patient has but that’s not the same as knowing what’s best for the patient.”  

It’s difficult to let go of our own assumptions about what we’re supposed to do, how healthy this person should be based on our criteria, and what is the best path forward in every situation. Our clinical training leads us to believe that we’re supposed to know what’s best for our patient. 

There is another quote, from Dr. Albert Schweitzer, which has challenged my thinking about patient care for a long time:  

“Patients carry their own doctor inside.”  

I believe that every one of us has opinions, ideas, and knowledge about our own health. That is the doctor inside. Dr. Schweitzer said patients come to us knowing we have expertise, but “we are at our best when we give the physician who resides within each patient a chance to go to work.” When we do that, we help people become healthier. 

There is a place for our solutions. There is a place for our expertise to show up. But if we slow ourselves down a half step, we are often amazed at the answers patients come up with. They can be downright creative and elegant. The reason they are elegant is because they are their solutions, and patients are more likely to follow through with solutions they conceive. I’m not saying we shouldn’t guide them to understanding the advantages and disadvantages of their solutions and other possibilities that you we know are out there, but we should be open to allowing them to think about solutions and not prejudge their choices. 

For example, if a patient says she or he doesn’t have time to floss, I was trained to say, “Well, don’t you watch the evening news? You can do it while you’re watching the news. Right?” That’s about me having the solution. But now I sit back and say to the patient, “Well, it sounds like you’re very busy. Is there any time at all during the day when you’re sitting, and you feel that you could floss easily?” When I ask the question, they usually have a better answer than the nightly news. It’s a better solution because it’s their solution. They have bought into it at some level.  

In many cases, we see the “treatment” for a problem as we’re seeing the problem. That’s something that we take a great deal of pride in. But when we come together with our patient, sitting eye to eye, we can often come to a much more elegant treatment plan, one that moves us more comprehensively toward our goal of improved health. In between what is and what is possible, we encourage the patient to discover the level of health to which they aspire. We come to mutual agreement about going forward in a certain way to accomplish some things that are bigger and better than just solving “a problem.” 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

In Part 1, we looked at personal boundaries in dental practice. I mentioned scarcity bias and how it is prevalent in undifferentiated dental practices but not so much in dental practices where providers and patients mutually share the values and agenda of the practice. Because scarcity bias is so human, so ingrained in us, I want to discuss two things in Part 2: healthy relationships and also how to address scarcity bias as it occurs in our differentiated dental practices. 

Insight Into Our Boundaries Leads to Healthy Relationships 

Healthy interdependent relationships are only possible through first understanding our personal boundaries (Who am I? What am I responsible for? What am I not responsible for?). That’s critical because psychologically speaking, boundaries are like fence lines with consciously regulated gates.  

The aphorism “Good fences make for good neighbors” prevails.  The same logic applies to the practice of dentistry and the nature of the relationships that we create—consciously or not, within it.  

And Now, We Circle Back to Differentiation  

Healthy interpersonal boundaries lead us toward more interpersonal authenticity, which leads us toward higher-quality communication of our values and purpose. Higher quality communication leads to a more sophisticated level of collaboration and healthy results, including healthy interdependent relationships, self-reflection, self-responsibility, improved oral and total body health, improved mental health, and a constantly growing reputation for your values. That’s differentiation. That’s personal authenticity. That’s success. 

Addressing Scarcity Bias 

Once we understand ourselves well and we communicate consistently with personal authenticity, we still have the challenge of “knee-jerk” scarcity bias in our patients. This is where patience comes in and empathy—understanding and recognizing their feelings. 

People are biased toward the here and now. The mind is naturally focused on meeting immediate needs at the expense of future ones. We procrastinate important things such as dental treatment unless we have an urgent need for it. We fail to make investments, even when the future benefits are significant or the costs of not doing so are substantial. 

When the dentist and patient participate equally in a co-discovery examination process and co-discovery consultations to discuss health history and current findings, and the patient is empowered and becomes comfortable mentioning everything on their mind, we have already begun the powerful process of leading each other through understanding what is happening in the body and what is happening in the mind (feelings and thoughts). We can start to talk about what the patient would like to achieve long term—the patient’s beyond-the-moment oral health goals. We can start to talk about what is possible to achieve together and introduce the notion that we can take steps at the speed that is mutually comfortable for us. 

Inspiration to do “the work” is often planted with just a few words that create a future desirable image in the patient’s mind. If we have the patience to let the inspiration grow, without overwhelming the patient, scarcity bias can dissipate. Often patients come back to the conversation the next time they visit us and say, “I was thinking about what we talked about, and I think I am ready to…”  

Negotiating health goals between two adults starts as an invitation to agree upon common goals. We can start early in the doctor-patient and hygienist-patient relationships by instilling the thought that preventive health care is a partnership. They can’t do it alone and you can’t do it for them. Everyone must play their part responsibly. 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

Today, I am revisiting the value of personal authenticity and its transformational power within truly helping relationships. We know can’t evolve into becoming more authentic with our patients until we first “know ourselves,” which is another way of saying “until we’ve developed a lot of personal insight.” 

Personal insight is the beginning point of understanding what tends to drive our behavior and thinking, therefore, it’s the beginning point of change. But there’s another key variable in the facilitation-of-change process that’s often overlooked: What is the level of personal insight within the person we are attempting to help?  

What happens when we and our patients share similar values? 

We’ve all had experiences with patients with whom we easily and almost automatically connect. The conversations flow smoothly, and there’s a lot of agreement regarding what needs to be addressed, how and when. It happens because these folks share similar values and priorities, and likely, they’ve had some personal experiences that strongly support those beliefs. 

But let’s be honest. Those moments are rare for most dentists who have undifferentiated practices. 

What happens in undifferentiated dental practices? 

When I use the adjective “undifferentiated,” I mean the practice has a lot of patients who come for reasons other than shared values, agendas, and purpose. A patient’s dental insurance is a prime reason patients go to a particular dentist. Nearly free new patient exams and limited x-rays offered by many dentists is another reason. Being accessible for emergency dentistry in the patient’s local neighborhood is yet another. 

PPOs are likely the most common reason a patient sticks with an undifferentiated dentist. Patients with “insurance” don’t really have insurance. They have a minimal and limiting benefit plan disguised AS IF it were insurance. Consequently, misconceptions occur due to the intentionally confusing language. 

Additionally, insurance causes people to naturally focus more on their benefits (a reductionistic concept) than on their health (a holistic concept). So, in a very twisted and often dysfunctional way, dental insurance can cause people to make bad decisions that negatively influence their health as they psychologically prioritize money over their health.  

The Scarcity Bias 

The human brain has a bias toward scarcity thinking unless it’s actively circumvented through more right-side prefrontal cortex involvement. This scarcity bias occurs as most dental patients make treatment choices, and when this happens, we have a choice. 

1. We can play along and rationalize it. “It is what it is.” We can take the checks and focus on economy-of-scale strategies and production. 

1. We can actively work to remove insurance carrier influence from the patient decision-making process while facilitating greater patient involvement and problem ownership. 

Put another way: We either accept the codependency relationships (and all the anger, confusion, disappointment, and frustration that it brings along with the insurance benefits), or we actively work at creating interdependent relationships with patients, wherein they become the co-creators of their health future and share responsibilities associated with that goal. 

The Violation of Personal Boundaries 

When we actively participate in dependency-centric relationships, we violate interpersonal boundaries.  

On this, Avrom King brilliantly commented, “Dependency is the word we use to identify an individual who, for whatever reason, cannot claim and develop their latent personal power; instead, they negotiate psychological contracts with other people whose ego needs are served by accepting responsibility for the dependent person’s outcomes.” 

The minute we start to take responsibility for other people’s responsibilities, we begin a journey down a road that commonly leads to dysfunction, conflict, and frustration. 

Heath-centered dentistry is only possible through interdependent relationships, which means that ALL codependent relationships aren’t health-centered. They are centered on other things that are often associated with insecurity.  

To be continued in Part 2…