By Steve Carstensen, DDS 

I want to share a clear example of how bad sleep directly affects the anatomical structures dentists pay a lot of attention to—the mandibular condyles.  

Sleep Disruption Disrupts Bone Regeneration 

We’ve all seen on X-rays condyles that do not look healthy. We wonder what causes so much degeneration. There are shelves of books and whole courses about what goes wrong but one of the things that affects condyles is a circadian rhythm disruption. Research* with rats has demonstrated that sleep disruption disrupts bone regeneration, causing thinning of the condyles. 

* Corrigendum: Circadian rhythm protein Bmal1 modulates cartilage gene expression in temporomandibular joint osteoarthritis via the MAPK/ERK pathway. Chen G, Zhao H, Ma S, Chen L, Wu G, Zhu Y, Zhu J, Ma C, Zhao H.Front Pharmacol. 2022 Sep 8;13:971840. doi: 10.3389/fphar.2022.971840. eCollection 2022.  

Rats were interrupted from their sleep cycles so they could not get through a normal night’s sleep. After eight weeks they took the disruptions away. During the first four weeks the cartilage layer over the condyles thinned, became really thin at six weeks, and stayed that way across eight weeks. After they returned the rats to undisrupted sleep for four weeks, the breaks in the normal covering of the condyles were still there.  

What do we take from that? The earlier in life that we establish healthy physiology that supports healthy sleep, the greater the chance children have of growing human condyles to withstand TMJ problems later.  

Disrupted Sleep Contributes to Multiple Health Issues 

There’s a lot of research that points to poor breathing contributing to pediatric and adolescent health issues. Among these issues are neurological deficits, behavioral problems, poor school performance, and pulmonary hypertension. A primary cause of poor-quality sleep among our youngest patients is enlarged tonsils and adenoids that obstruct their airway.  

Helping Children and Teens Breath and Sleep Better 

What can dentists do in daily practice with children and teens to help them breathe better and sleep better early in life?  

1. Educate our adult patients who are parents of children to be aware of signs and symptoms.  
2. Develop a culture within our practice of being a health consultant, so our adult patients feel welcome to easily engage in conversations about health issues that commonly affect children and teens.  
3. Introduce the parents to their own need for an open airway for healthy sleep to raise awareness.  
4. Assess all our patients for breathing issues and examine their airways for signs of obstruction.  
5. Provide guidance to our adult patients and to the parents of the young people in our care so they can choose appropriate care.  

Our Responsibility 

We need to start paying attention to these things as much as we do the health of the teeth and periodontium. As dentists, we are responsible for the entire cranial facial respiratory complex. My colleague, Dr. Kevin Boyd in Chicago, is a pediatric dentist who came up with that label a few years ago. I love that term, because it helps us focus on the whole person, structure and function! We can be proud when we help our patients with the respiratory part of the complex. 

As we take our place in medicine as being in charge of the cranial facial respiratory complex, we get to affect growth and development. We get to help train the body to swallow properly and grow good bone and good airway support. And that’s the major role I think dentists are going to have going forward in healthcare–identifying those children who have an underdeveloped cranial facial respiratory complex and influencing their care. Like other folks in medicine…an ENT doctor…a myofunctional therapist…a speech therapist, we help correct the things that we recognize that are going wrong. 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

Effective leadership in dentistry requires open-mindedness and empathy, while at the same time, assertiveness, consistency, adaptableness, and resilience.  

That’s a tall order! 

Many of us struggle to be assertive and empathetic at the same time, particularly when we are under pressure. All too often, we lean into our positional power and superior knowledge and don’t stop to ask ourselves: 

• How does the patient feel about my message? 

• Does the patient understand the long-term implications of the information I have presented? 

It’s important to remind ourselves that decision-making is a two-step process: 

Step 1: The recognition of accurate, relevant, timely, and important new information 

Step 2: Reasoning to make choices that align with values and goals 

Few people fully understand the nature of their problems, needs, and the complex processes necessary to realize their goals when they first come into our dental offices. Patients often behave dogmatically or too emotionally, which leads them to choices that result in more failure and frustration. 

Our ability to facilitate learning in others and lead them to decisions with predictably better outcomes can be developed. This is good news! With understanding, practice, and reinforcement through successful experiences, we can all learn how to become more effective leaders and develop a more successful practice. 

The 6 Key Steps to Effectively Guiding Our Patients 

1. Slow down and manage your time more strategically to spend more time with each patient.
2. Demonstrate empathy. Stay in conversation and ask questions to understand what they know and how they feel about the information you are giving them. 
3. Create a safe and effective environment for learning. This entails slowing down your delivery of information into the bite sizes that are appropriate for the patient and pausing often for their minds to catch up and for them to experience self-discoveries.  
4. Show deference for the fact that each person is the best expert regarding themselves, their feelings, values, and goals. Let them know you will support them in their process and invite them to learn more and weigh their new knowledge against their values, priorities, and long-term goals.
5. Give each person enough time to make complex decisions as well as work through the logistics necessary to make their decisions fit into their life.
6. 6. Remain clear and assertive about what is in the patient’s best health interests and consistent with your values. Only proceed with treatment decisions that are mutually agreed upon as appropriate.

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

Developing a partnership begins with an attitude of curiosity. It stems from a belief in the possibility that by working together we can achieve more than either of us can accomplish alone. With an attitude of curiosity we can develop the skill of listening and asking questions before going too quickly to teaching and telling. 

How do we help our patients see the part they can play in improving their health?  

We can begin by inviting the patient to share with us what they know about their health. They come to us with attitudes, beliefs, biases, and concerns about their health, as well as specific knowledge of their history. The more we know about where they have been the better able we will be to help them plan their future. We will have information to share about what we find and recommendations for how to proceed, but if we listen first we honor their perspective. We can also begin to hear their aspirations for their health in general and their dental health in particular. 

When dentists discover plaque or bleeding in an initial exam, they can tell the patient that the hygienist will help them with home care. But if we ask the patient if they would like help with home care and they say yes, we now have an invitation to give them information. The difference is subtle, but important.  

You can also ask the patient if a solution they have thought of or a recommendation you have made is something they would like to try. A yes is a commitment on some level to share in the oral hygiene process with you. Inviting and asking means moving the locus of control from you to the patient. I recognize that that is not our default mechanism, so doing this takes intention.  

How can we help patients to see us as a trusted advisor and seek our guidance? 

One of the things that I have learned over the years is that, when I remember who is really in control of the patients’ health, I am better able to partner with them. This process may take a little longer initially, but I would like to suggest we have all the time we need. We have the lifetime of our relationships with our patients.  

Once you agree that you have the mutual goal of moving toward improved health, you can invite them to deeper levels of conversation and understanding around health. You can avoid assuming what is best for them and help the physician inside each patient go to work. As they share their thoughts, they often become clearer about what they hope for.  

When you are genuinely interested in your patient, you earn a level of trust that opens the patient to hear more about their existing conditions and your concerns for them. By making connections with them over what is possible to achieve and what they want to achieve, you create a bond that opens the patient to your expert perspectives. When you ask for and respect their input on solutions, they are more likely to commit to a solution. 

When a new patient needs urgent treatment, how can we meet those treatment needs and still commence a lifetime journey toward health with the patient? 

Of course, we want to help our patients with immediate treatment when disease conditions are acute, but we want to do so in a way that inspires the patient to see the bigger, more comprehensive health picture. We want to help them see health as a journey and see us as empathetic fellow travelers who understand their suffering. As we facilitate dialogue about the health outcomes of treatment, we uncover their broader health aspirations. 

We intentionally deliver the message that we are here for them. We are interested in them and care about them as a person, and we let them know they can count on us to help them become healthier and maintain achieved levels of health. We do not allow the fact that the patient needed immediate relief to get in the way of a long-term commitment to their overall health.  

How do we engage our patients in being curious about their total health? 

At every visit, we can invite them into conversation about their health. The questions you ask will shape the conversation. Instead of “Any changes in your health history?” you might begin with, “How has your health been since the last time we were together?” Pause and listen to learn about your patient’s experiences, opinions, and feelings.  

In my experience, this process respects the physician that lives within each patient and leads to continuous co-discovery and collaboration toward health. Every conversation can empower the patient a little bit more to become clearer about their knowledge, attitudes, beliefs, biases, and barriers. The insights developed over the lifetime of your relationship enable you to become a trusted advisor to your patients.  

By exposing your interest about a range of health issues (diabetes, heart disease, obstructive sleep apnea, weight loss, smoking cessation, stress reduction, etc.), they will see you as a professional with broad knowledge and a worthwhile perspective. They will see you as a valuable resource. They will see you as someone who knows about health and ¾ more important ¾ someone who knows them.  

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

One way to involve patients in making choices about their health is to ask for an invitation to give information. Everyone on the team can look for ways to get permission before taking action. For example, if the dentist observes bleeding or plaque while doing an initial exam, the dentists often say, “The hygienist will help you with that.” That’s okay but getting an invitation for the hygienist is even more helpful. Instead of telling the patient what the hygienist will do, the dentist could ask for an invitation. “Would you like the hygienist to help you with that when you see her?” Patients typically say yes, and that sets the hygienist up for a different conversation when she sees that patient.  

When the hygienist sees a note that the patient wants some help removing deposits in a certain area, she has been invited to give information. The hygienist can say, “So, I understand from the doctor that you’d like to have some help with being more effective at removing the deposits that are around this tooth on the lower right.” 

In this circumstance, I might ask the patient, “What have you tried in cleaning that area?” I pause and allow the patient to think and speak. Perhaps they would demonstrate how they brush or floss in that area. If I do make a recommendation to a patient, I like to follow it with, “Is that something you’d like to try?” 

The dentist and hygienist are a team, and the patient is the third team member in partnering for health. In ideal practice, all clinical and front office team members are part of the collaboration and share their understanding of the patient with each other. Many times, especially with elderly patients, I find there is a family member who is a health partner, and we can invite them to participate in consultations. In dentistry, when we become trusted health advisors to our patients, we can also influence their choices in other areas of their health.  

When we listen well, we can filter our information through the lens of improving overall health. We can make connections between their perspective and our own. When we understand the patient as an individual with special circumstances, opinions, and emotions, we can help them get in touch with their own aspirations for health and help them move toward those goals.  

By Paul A. Henny, DDS, and Deborah E. Bush, MA 

The traditional rational economic model used in classical decision-making theory routinely fails to predict patient behavior because it fails to consider the psychology of decision-making and the inductive neuro process necessary to change one’s mind about what is best for oneself. 

Classic Decision Theory 

Classic Decision Theory (CDT) models a decision-making process that involves a fixed set of alternatives about which a person knows little. In response, they relate their limited knowledge to the situation at hand, use their beliefs and expectations associated with the options to project an outcome, and then use logic to make the final decision based on their goals. 

According to this theory, people primarily make decisions based on their desire to maximize gains and minimize losses, an objective. This deductive process is largely driven by a heuristic known as “scarcity bias.” However, anyone who has practiced dentistry for more than a day outside of a teaching institution knows that CDT fails to explain many of the decisions patients make when they’re confronted with a complex problem they don’t fully understand.  

Simple decisions such as “Should I get this filling replaced because it’s broken?” or “Should I allow Dr. Smith to help me make this tooth stop hurting?” are predictable. What’s much less predictable is whether a person will allow us to equilibrate their occlusion or leverage restorative dentistry to reestablish proper form, function, esthetics, and neuromuscular modulation. Why? Because these are complex issues that require an understanding of how the stomatognathic system works before the proposed solution makes sense and appears to be the logical best option to the patient. 

Neuroeconomics is an interdisciplinary field that aims to explain human decision-making. By integrating psychology and neuroscience, this discipline can help us better understand how humans process alternatives to make choices and follow through on a plan of action. Neuroscience affirms that re-evaluating perspectives is a right-brain activity and an inductive process. 

The Dentist’s Challenge  

In practice, we often see patients making decisions we think are unwise for their long-term oral health. A person’s values and belief system influence their decisions. Not only may the person’s understanding and belief system be underdeveloped in relation to the value of properly planned, designed, and executed health-centered restorative dentistry, but their memories may be distorted. In this case, the person makes what we perceive to be unwise decisions because their memories do not align well with our understanding of the situation. They don’t know what we know.  

Helping Patients Think and Feel Differently Through Inductive Reasoning 

Reassessment, modification, or outright replacement of beliefs is a right-brain process known as inductive reasoning. The purpose of Co-Discovery is to take the patient through an inductive reasoning process. Oral health providers who understand how and why Co-Discovery works have experienced how it can change the trajectory of a person’s decision-making process. 

Our challenge is to create an optimal learning environment in which people can safely reevaluate their beliefs, values, and priorities. Being patient with patients and taking our time to guide them through the inductive process of Co-Discovery will comfortably provoke new thinking, new beliefs, and new emotions. Through the process, a great many patients come to realize that their historical perspective is not serving them well, and they decide to have that equilibration or restorative dentistry that will serve them best in the long-term.  

They may not choose treatment the first time it is recommended but will subsequently realize it is in their best interest. We just have to stay in conversation with them in Co-Discovery mode and guide them through the inductive process to arrive at their new goals.  

Long-term, this is healthier for dentists and their care teams as well. The conversations we have with patients change the trajectory of our dental practices. Better conversations result in better decisions, which in turn result in better outcomes. Better outcomes result in lower stress and a thriving practice that is much more fulfilling for dentists and care team members.   

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

Dr. Rachel Naomi Remin says, “Doctor, you may know what’s best for the disease the patient has but that’s not the same as knowing what’s best for the patient.”  

It’s difficult to let go of our own assumptions about what we’re supposed to do, how healthy this person should be based on our criteria, and what is the best path forward in every situation. Our clinical training leads us to believe that we’re supposed to know what’s best for our patient. 

There is another quote, from Dr. Albert Schweitzer, which has challenged my thinking about patient care for a long time:  

“Patients carry their own doctor inside.”  

I believe that every one of us has opinions, ideas, and knowledge about our own health. That is the doctor inside. Dr. Schweitzer said patients come to us knowing we have expertise, but “we are at our best when we give the physician who resides within each patient a chance to go to work.” When we do that, we help people become healthier. 

There is a place for our solutions. There is a place for our expertise to show up. But if we slow ourselves down a half step, we are often amazed at the answers patients come up with. They can be downright creative and elegant. The reason they are elegant is because they are their solutions, and patients are more likely to follow through with solutions they conceive. I’m not saying we shouldn’t guide them to understanding the advantages and disadvantages of their solutions and other possibilities that you we know are out there, but we should be open to allowing them to think about solutions and not prejudge their choices. 

For example, if a patient says she or he doesn’t have time to floss, I was trained to say, “Well, don’t you watch the evening news? You can do it while you’re watching the news. Right?” That’s about me having the solution. But now I sit back and say to the patient, “Well, it sounds like you’re very busy. Is there any time at all during the day when you’re sitting, and you feel that you could floss easily?” When I ask the question, they usually have a better answer than the nightly news. It’s a better solution because it’s their solution. They have bought into it at some level.  

In many cases, we see the “treatment” for a problem as we’re seeing the problem. That’s something that we take a great deal of pride in. But when we come together with our patient, sitting eye to eye, we can often come to a much more elegant treatment plan, one that moves us more comprehensively toward our goal of improved health. In between what is and what is possible, we encourage the patient to discover the level of health to which they aspire. We come to mutual agreement about going forward in a certain way to accomplish some things that are bigger and better than just solving “a problem.” 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

In Part 1, we looked at personal boundaries in dental practice. I mentioned scarcity bias and how it is prevalent in undifferentiated dental practices but not so much in dental practices where providers and patients mutually share the values and agenda of the practice. Because scarcity bias is so human, so ingrained in us, I want to discuss two things in Part 2: healthy relationships and also how to address scarcity bias as it occurs in our differentiated dental practices. 

Insight Into Our Boundaries Leads to Healthy Relationships 

Healthy interdependent relationships are only possible through first understanding our personal boundaries (Who am I? What am I responsible for? What am I not responsible for?). That’s critical because psychologically speaking, boundaries are like fence lines with consciously regulated gates.  

The aphorism “Good fences make for good neighbors” prevails.  The same logic applies to the practice of dentistry and the nature of the relationships that we create—consciously or not, within it.  

And Now, We Circle Back to Differentiation  

Healthy interpersonal boundaries lead us toward more interpersonal authenticity, which leads us toward higher-quality communication of our values and purpose. Higher quality communication leads to a more sophisticated level of collaboration and healthy results, including healthy interdependent relationships, self-reflection, self-responsibility, improved oral and total body health, improved mental health, and a constantly growing reputation for your values. That’s differentiation. That’s personal authenticity. That’s success. 

Addressing Scarcity Bias 

Once we understand ourselves well and we communicate consistently with personal authenticity, we still have the challenge of “knee-jerk” scarcity bias in our patients. This is where patience comes in and empathy—understanding and recognizing their feelings. 

People are biased toward the here and now. The mind is naturally focused on meeting immediate needs at the expense of future ones. We procrastinate important things such as dental treatment unless we have an urgent need for it. We fail to make investments, even when the future benefits are significant or the costs of not doing so are substantial. 

When the dentist and patient participate equally in a co-discovery examination process and co-discovery consultations to discuss health history and current findings, and the patient is empowered and becomes comfortable mentioning everything on their mind, we have already begun the powerful process of leading each other through understanding what is happening in the body and what is happening in the mind (feelings and thoughts). We can start to talk about what the patient would like to achieve long term—the patient’s beyond-the-moment oral health goals. We can start to talk about what is possible to achieve together and introduce the notion that we can take steps at the speed that is mutually comfortable for us. 

Inspiration to do “the work” is often planted with just a few words that create a future desirable image in the patient’s mind. If we have the patience to let the inspiration grow, without overwhelming the patient, scarcity bias can dissipate. Often patients come back to the conversation the next time they visit us and say, “I was thinking about what we talked about, and I think I am ready to…”  

Negotiating health goals between two adults starts as an invitation to agree upon common goals. We can start early in the doctor-patient and hygienist-patient relationships by instilling the thought that preventive health care is a partnership. They can’t do it alone and you can’t do it for them. Everyone must play their part responsibly. 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

Today, I am revisiting the value of personal authenticity and its transformational power within truly helping relationships. We know can’t evolve into becoming more authentic with our patients until we first “know ourselves,” which is another way of saying “until we’ve developed a lot of personal insight.” 

Personal insight is the beginning point of understanding what tends to drive our behavior and thinking, therefore, it’s the beginning point of change. But there’s another key variable in the facilitation-of-change process that’s often overlooked: What is the level of personal insight within the person we are attempting to help?  

What happens when we and our patients share similar values? 

We’ve all had experiences with patients with whom we easily and almost automatically connect. The conversations flow smoothly, and there’s a lot of agreement regarding what needs to be addressed, how and when. It happens because these folks share similar values and priorities, and likely, they’ve had some personal experiences that strongly support those beliefs. 

But let’s be honest. Those moments are rare for most dentists who have undifferentiated practices. 

What happens in undifferentiated dental practices? 

When I use the adjective “undifferentiated,” I mean the practice has a lot of patients who come for reasons other than shared values, agendas, and purpose. A patient’s dental insurance is a prime reason patients go to a particular dentist. Nearly free new patient exams and limited x-rays offered by many dentists is another reason. Being accessible for emergency dentistry in the patient’s local neighborhood is yet another. 

PPOs are likely the most common reason a patient sticks with an undifferentiated dentist. Patients with “insurance” don’t really have insurance. They have a minimal and limiting benefit plan disguised AS IF it were insurance. Consequently, misconceptions occur due to the intentionally confusing language. 

Additionally, insurance causes people to naturally focus more on their benefits (a reductionistic concept) than on their health (a holistic concept). So, in a very twisted and often dysfunctional way, dental insurance can cause people to make bad decisions that negatively influence their health as they psychologically prioritize money over their health.  

The Scarcity Bias 

The human brain has a bias toward scarcity thinking unless it’s actively circumvented through more right-side prefrontal cortex involvement. This scarcity bias occurs as most dental patients make treatment choices, and when this happens, we have a choice. 

1. We can play along and rationalize it. “It is what it is.” We can take the checks and focus on economy-of-scale strategies and production. 

1. We can actively work to remove insurance carrier influence from the patient decision-making process while facilitating greater patient involvement and problem ownership. 

Put another way: We either accept the codependency relationships (and all the anger, confusion, disappointment, and frustration that it brings along with the insurance benefits), or we actively work at creating interdependent relationships with patients, wherein they become the co-creators of their health future and share responsibilities associated with that goal. 

The Violation of Personal Boundaries 

When we actively participate in dependency-centric relationships, we violate interpersonal boundaries.  

On this, Avrom King brilliantly commented, “Dependency is the word we use to identify an individual who, for whatever reason, cannot claim and develop their latent personal power; instead, they negotiate psychological contracts with other people whose ego needs are served by accepting responsibility for the dependent person’s outcomes.” 

The minute we start to take responsibility for other people’s responsibilities, we begin a journey down a road that commonly leads to dysfunction, conflict, and frustration. 

Heath-centered dentistry is only possible through interdependent relationships, which means that ALL codependent relationships aren’t health-centered. They are centered on other things that are often associated with insecurity.  

To be continued in Part 2… 

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

How can we make recommendations for care without fully understanding what the patient aspires to? The patient’s goals are the context or should be the context for recommendations that we are going to make as their partner in health. Too often, context is the missing piece in our conversations with patients.  

I’ve heard that Dr. Bob Barkley would say to his patients, “You know, Mrs. Jones, if I had taken X-rays of you every six months since you were born, we would have 80 sets of x-rays. And if I stacked them one on top of another and then thumbed through them, I would have a movie of the health of your mouth for the last 40 years. We would see how your teeth changed from health to the degree of breakdown we see today. We can’t do anything now to change that movie. That movie has already been made. But, if you like, you and I can work together to create the movie for the next 40 years. Is that something you’d like to do?” 

If we get agreement from the patient, “Yes, I’d like to work together with you to plan for the next 40 years,” that’s not a specific goal, but it begins to create a context for our recommendations. Instead of the provider setting the expectations of the patient, it becomes more of a mutual agreement to long-term planning, so that there’s a buy-in by both parties in the relationship. That’s moving toward a partnership.  

When we set a general mutual goal during the preclinical consults, it fits in well with our not knowing what we will uncover during the clinical piece of the appointment. Dentists and hygienists can be direct about it, and I think there is value in saying, “I’d like to come to a mutual agreement that we work together to understand what is going on in your mouth, and based on the circumstances we find, come up with the best solutions for you. Is that something you would like to do?” 

We can set expectations by saying, “As we go through this process, I will be asking for your input. We’ll take it slow and be thorough. We’ll discuss what you and I discover, and together we can think through the next steps you may want to take. How does that sound to you?” 

I think it is essential to this process to invite the patient to be in shared control by asking, “Would you like to proceed with the clinical examination? Do you have any questions for me before we begin?” 

When we come to the conversation as fellow travelers with the attitude that “the two of us can work together,” we open ourselves to working toward mutual agreement about what it’s going to take for this particular person to achieve the level of health to which they aspire. Starting as partners with the goal of improved health is a low-stress way of being in a relationship that is comfortable for both parties. 

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

How much time do you schedule for a new patient, non-emergency visit? Is your priority efficiency or effectiveness? Is your goal to gather as much clinical data as possible, or is it to begin to build a relationship of mutual trust? Both are possible if you see the new patient visit as more of a process than an event.   

Too often new patients are rushed through an assembly line: brief conversation, clinical exam, diagnostic records, and treatment presentation! Is that really the best way to help people make choices about their health?  

There is no one right way to schedule a new patient. Different practices are successful with different models based on the values of the practice, practice growth, and the personality and skills of doctors and team members. The most important determinant of success is our ability to meet each patient where they are and join them on a journey to health. I am not suggesting we should be without practice standards of care.  We have a responsibility to decide what we need before beginning treatment. Our challenge is to guide patients to understanding why we need what we need, and why that is relevant to their unique situation.   

We may anticipate that patients will resist this type of experience, but if we make it truly about the patient and are flexible, I have found that patients are more than willing to participate in an individualized process that best meets their temperament and circumstances. 

I remember seeing a new patient that I was told was a “very busy attorney” because his secretary said so when she made the appointment and his wife said so when she confirmed the appointment. I anticipated that he would be a driver and prepared to efficiently move him through his appointment.  

As I explored his health history with him he expanded on the specific answers to questions. Soon, he was leading the conversation. When I remarked that I wanted to make sure we were making good use of his time. He said, “Mary, what’s this about time?” I replied that I knew he was very busy. He said, “Mary, this is about me. I have time for me.” 

His statement has stayed with me because I realized that if the conversation had been about me going through my check list and not listening to him, it would not have been a worthwhile experience for him. It also wouldn’t have been a worthwhile experience for me. 

I have learned that when the patient feels in control of the process they are willing to give that time to themselves. A lot of aha moments occur as they learn about themselves while speaking. When patients feel like they are on an assembly line being moved through our system, they have every right to be resistant.  

Empowering patients to lead the process is both an attitude and a learnable skill. When we can lose ourselves in the moment, really listen, really encourage, and really care about the patient’s thoughts and feelings, it is easy to make connections to the next step we recommend.  It is my experience that I can more quickly become a trusted health advisor when I intentionally share control with my patient. 

Most patients are willing to invest more time in the process when they see the connection between their needs and what we recommend.  These are typically patients who have or have had complex health issues and are seeking to improve and retain health. They perceive the value of the extended process and how much value you place on spending in-depth time with them.  

The entire team’s communication can deliver the message that everyone in the practice is keenly interested in them, and their appointment is uniquely planned to meet their needs.  

What has been your experience? Are you open to scheduling more time for conversations that typically garner trust and appreciation earlier in the relationship?