By Paul A. Henny, DDS 

Effective leadership in dentistry requires open-mindedness and empathy, while at the same time, assertiveness, consistency, adaptableness, and resilience.  

That’s a tall order! 

Many of us struggle to be assertive and empathetic at the same time, particularly when we are under pressure. All too often, we lean into our positional power and superior knowledge and don’t stop to ask ourselves: 

• How does the patient feel about my message? 

• Does the patient understand the long-term implications of the information I have presented? 

It’s important to remind ourselves that decision-making is a two-step process: 

Step 1: The recognition of accurate, relevant, timely, and important new information 

Step 2: Reasoning to make choices that align with values and goals 

Few people fully understand the nature of their problems, needs, and the complex processes necessary to realize their goals when they first come into our dental offices. Patients often behave dogmatically or too emotionally, which leads them to choices that result in more failure and frustration. 

Our ability to facilitate learning in others and lead them to decisions with predictably better outcomes can be developed. This is good news! With understanding, practice, and reinforcement through successful experiences, we can all learn how to become more effective leaders and develop a more successful practice. 

The 6 Key Steps to Effectively Guiding Our Patients 

1. Slow down and manage your time more strategically to spend more time with each patient.
2. Demonstrate empathy. Stay in conversation and ask questions to understand what they know and how they feel about the information you are giving them. 
3. Create a safe and effective environment for learning. This entails slowing down your delivery of information into the bite sizes that are appropriate for the patient and pausing often for their minds to catch up and for them to experience self-discoveries.  
4. Show deference for the fact that each person is the best expert regarding themselves, their feelings, values, and goals. Let them know you will support them in their process and invite them to learn more and weigh their new knowledge against their values, priorities, and long-term goals.
5. Give each person enough time to make complex decisions as well as work through the logistics necessary to make their decisions fit into their life.
6. 6. Remain clear and assertive about what is in the patient’s best health interests and consistent with your values. Only proceed with treatment decisions that are mutually agreed upon as appropriate.

By Steve Carstensen, DDS  

“Hypoxic burden” is the challenge that the body has to low levels of oxygen on an intermittent basis. Our physiology has an adaptive capacity to manage hypoxic burdens. We can hold our breath. We can dive under water. We can go up in an airplane. We can live at different altitudes. When that adaptive capacity is exceeded, low oxygen places our physiology under stress. At the extreme level, organs are injured. Frequently occurring or sustained hypoxic burdens at lower levels lead to chronic disease conditions. These are chronic non-infectious diseases of inflammation. 

As people sleep most keep their airway open. Whether they are on their backs or on their sides, they have an open airway and breathe through their noses. But 29 millions of us in the United States have some form of obstruction in their airway while they sleep. The general term for all levels is sleep-related breathing disorders. At the most serious level we call it obstructive sleep apnea. 

Many of our patients have daytime breathing problems as well but during sleep a large percentage of our patients have intermittent hypoxia because their tongue occludes their airway and their oxygen levels drop. The brain kicks in when the body exceeds its adaptive capacity and wakes the patient up. Their physiology is under stress. They are not getting a restful night of sleep.  

The Size of the Problem 

Millions of people have some form of sleep related breathing disorder. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine commissioned Frost & Sullivan to do a study in 2016 that calculated the annual economic burden of undiagnosed sleep apnea among U.S. adults as approximately $149.6 billion (about $460 per person in the US). The estimated costs included $86.9 billion (about $270 per person in the US) in lost productivity, $26.2 billion (about $81 per person in the US) in motor vehicle accidents and $6.5 billion (about $20 per person in the US) in workplace accidents. There is no dispute about the size of the problem, but even the best efforts of dentists working in tandem with sleep physicians have not addressed the volume of people who would benefit from care. 

Currently there is a shortage of Sleep Medicine specialists. The recent approximation is 7,500 but not all are practicing. Even if there were 10,000 diagnosing physicians, it is a small number compared to 193,000 practicing dentists. There is a consensus of leaders in the field who think there are a few thousand dentists actively treating sleep-related breathing disorders, but maybe only a few hundred delivering a significant number of devices per year. There need to be many more. We can incorporate airway assessment and patient education into our workflow to support the breathing and airway health of our dental patients. We can add more services to our practice mix to address their needs within our licensure. So, I am on a mission, if you will, to take this challenge to my Pankey Institute colleagues through a series of blogs and educational opportunities, starting here and in presentations during the Essentials continuum. 

The Consequences of Sleep Fragmentation 

During a normal night’s sleep, we’re supposed to go through cycles of light sleep, deep sleep and dream sleep (REM sleep). If you have a new baby, a new puppy or breathing disorders and your sleep is interrupted frequently because of these things, you’re not going to get a good night’s sleep. When fragmented sleep is created by a breathing-related sleep disturbance, we have cycles of apnea and arousals—intermittent hypoxia that leads to health problems.  

Our patients may not call it sleep fragmentation. They may say I get terrible sleep. If they are not able to breathe well through the night every night for decades, there are pathophysiologic consequences. The worst are systemic inflammation, adrenergic activation, and oxidative stress. If the human body responds to chronic intermittent hypoxia after the adaptive process is exceeded, the body starts to break down. Manifestations include insulin resistance, hypertension, Type 2 diabetes, heart failure, atrial fibrillation, stroke, non-alcoholic liver disease, chronic kidney disease, cancers, and polycystic syndrome.  

The respiratory system manages gas exchange in our bodies. It is the foundation of our physiology. We disrupt that and we allow the body to develop these other issues. Our patients complain they have had difficulty having these diseases diagnosed and treated. But now we have ways to intervene to prevent these problems upstream. We can do that as dentists.  

Breathing and airway support is a powerful place for dentists to impact the whole-body health of those we serve. 

By Deborah Bush 

Imagine this: a valued member of your dental team walks in, resignation letter in hand. It’s a blow, not just to patient care, but to the overall morale of your practice. But what if you could have prevented it? Enter the “Stay Interview,” a powerful tool used by thriving dental practices to keep their top talent happy and engaged. 

Why Stay Interviews Matter 

Studies by Gallup and Pew Research show that money isn’t the only reason employees leave. Often, it’s a feeling of being undervalued, lacking growth opportunities, or simply not having a voice. A Stay Interview allows you to proactively address these concerns before it’s too late. 

Benefits of Stay Interviews for Dental Practices 

• Reduced Turnover: Replacing an employee costs a significant portion of their annual salary. Stay Interviews can help you identify and address issues that lead to departures, saving you time and money. 

• Improved Morale: When employees feel valued and heard, their morale soars. This translates into a more positive work environment for everyone, including patients. 

• Increased Productivity: Engaged employees are more productive. By identifying and addressing roadblocks, you can help your team work smarter, not harder. 

• Enhanced Patient Care: A happy, stable team provides better care for patients. Stay Interviews can help ensure your dental team feels supported and equipped to deliver top-notch service. 

Turning “Stay” into Action 

Here’s how to implement Stay Interviews in your dental practice: 

1. First, focus on high-performing team members, those critical to the practice and whose departure would be a major loss
2. Schedule private, dedicated time for the interview. Ensure a relaxed atmosphere. I recommend having a stay interview twice a year and strategically schedule one of the interviews before planned vacations. This way your valued team members have happy thoughts about their employment while gone and look forward to returning. If you are going through a practice transition, you may need to adjust when you do stay interviews to make sure you meet with each employee early in the transition to help them see the value of the transition for them. See Effective Strategies for Managing Transition in Your Dental Practice Part 3  – The Pankey Institute
3. •  Start and continue a conversation. Remember that “the relationship is the conversation.” Two-way listening and recognition are key. 
     • You might start the conversation with this question: “What do you enjoy most about working here?” 
     • Go deeper by asking: “What could make your job even more fulfilling?” “Have you considered leaving?”  
     • Trigger their professional drive by asking: “Do you feel challenged?” “Have I given you enough opportunities to grow professionally?” “What would you like to do more of?” 
     • Affirm their value. “I may not say it often enough, but I value you and recognize your contributions to the practice. In fact, recently….” “Would you consider leading on our next project to _______. It’s important to me that I have someone like you I can rely on to champion this and help make sure we make headway.” 
     • Ask: “What could we do to improve our office culture?” “Do you think I have been clear enough about the direction we are headed?” “Am I providing you with enough feedback?” “How do you like to get feedback?” See How Do You Like to Receive Feedback?  – The Pankey Institute. 
4. Actively listen and respond without becoming defensive.
5. Summarize the key points of the conversation and create a plan to address concerns.
6. Follow up with more conversations as needed. 

Remember, the key is to listen, respond, and act. Let Stay Interviews be the bridge to building a thriving dental team with happy smiles all around! 

About Deborah E. Bush: Deb is a contributing writer specializing in dentistry and a subject matter expert on the behavioral and technological changes occurring in dentistry. A graduate of the University of Michigan and a student of positive psychology, Deb has more than four decades of technical writing experience for medical and dental outlets and authorities. Before becoming a dental-focused freelance writer and analyst, Deborah served as the Communications Manager for The Pankey Institute for Advanced Dental Education and as Director of Communications for the Preeclampsia Foundation. Her work with leading dental brands includes Curve Dental, Patient Prism, and Alatus Solutions (which includes DentalPost, Illumitrac, and Amplify360). She has co-authored and ghostwritten books and articles for multiple dental authorities. 

By Edwin A. McDonald, DDS 

It is amazing to me to realize that I have practiced for more than 40 years in a relationship based, fee for service dental practice. Dentistry has become much more complex during that time. What has not changed is the need for human beings to be loved, accepted, significant, understood, and heard. Also, people who have a high value for their health seek high clinical competence and thoughtful patient management.  

Two years ago, I started looking for a partner to continue providing my patients with comprehensive, relationship-based care. (My hands, back, and body had been telling me that it was time to slow down.) My primary goal in this transition was to create a future where the culture of my practice would continue, and the practice would thrive and grow. 

I received a call 18 months ago from my good friend, Dr. Lynne Gerlach. She said: “Mac, I want you to meet Dr. Shawn Luck.” Lynne went on to say, “I interview young dentists every day and I rarely meet people like him.” 

Shawn and I met, and I immediately understood what she meant. After a few more meetings, several phone calls with colleagues that knew Shawn well, and a thorough financial analysis, it was time for “Team Mac” to meet Dr. Shawn.  

Team relationships are critical to a successful transition. Shawn was met with enthusiasm from my team. That meant we could move forward with a detailed agreement that included terms of employment and terms of practice purchase.  

Shawn’s well-grounded character, confidence, enthusiasm, and intelligence were the factors that guided my decision. We both needed what each other had. I needed Shawn’s character, youth, energy, ambition, and strong desire to own a practice. He needed my clinical training, experience, and commitment to be a focused, consistent, and relentless teacher. 

I began communicating the transition with my team and patients a few months before meeting with Shawn. I mailed a formal letter to my patients that said that I saw three to five years of clinical practice remaining for myself. The letter began and ended with a big thank you for their loyalty, trust, and support. It let them know that I was actively looking for a young dentist to partner with who would continue to take care of them. This letter was a huge success with a thank you from almost every patient. A few patients began to schedule pending treatment that had been on their mind. 

We sent a second letter four months later to announce Dr. Luck. We began communicating about his arrival in person with enthusiasm and emailed a digital copy. The main takeaway here is that the transition immediately benefitted from consistent, focused, and abundant communication with all practice stakeholders about what we were planning and hoping for.  

We are in the middle of year one and I am focusing on mentoring Dr. Luck. We are hoping to play the infinite game as we create and pass on opportunities to the next generation. 

My hope for my Pankey Institute colleagues is you will surround yourself with great people that make you better. Build partnerships with them. Build trust at a deep level. Build community. Serve one another. Seek opportunities to pass on the values of relationship-based practice to the next generation. If you invite young dentists into a relationship and repeat the mentoring you received, we can all play this forward. Dr. Shawn Luck has already captured the spirit of wanting to do just that. 

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

Developing a partnership begins with an attitude of curiosity. It stems from a belief in the possibility that by working together we can achieve more than either of us can accomplish alone. With an attitude of curiosity we can develop the skill of listening and asking questions before going too quickly to teaching and telling. 

How do we help our patients see the part they can play in improving their health?  

We can begin by inviting the patient to share with us what they know about their health. They come to us with attitudes, beliefs, biases, and concerns about their health, as well as specific knowledge of their history. The more we know about where they have been the better able we will be to help them plan their future. We will have information to share about what we find and recommendations for how to proceed, but if we listen first we honor their perspective. We can also begin to hear their aspirations for their health in general and their dental health in particular. 

When dentists discover plaque or bleeding in an initial exam, they can tell the patient that the hygienist will help them with home care. But if we ask the patient if they would like help with home care and they say yes, we now have an invitation to give them information. The difference is subtle, but important.  

You can also ask the patient if a solution they have thought of or a recommendation you have made is something they would like to try. A yes is a commitment on some level to share in the oral hygiene process with you. Inviting and asking means moving the locus of control from you to the patient. I recognize that that is not our default mechanism, so doing this takes intention.  

How can we help patients to see us as a trusted advisor and seek our guidance? 

One of the things that I have learned over the years is that, when I remember who is really in control of the patients’ health, I am better able to partner with them. This process may take a little longer initially, but I would like to suggest we have all the time we need. We have the lifetime of our relationships with our patients.  

Once you agree that you have the mutual goal of moving toward improved health, you can invite them to deeper levels of conversation and understanding around health. You can avoid assuming what is best for them and help the physician inside each patient go to work. As they share their thoughts, they often become clearer about what they hope for.  

When you are genuinely interested in your patient, you earn a level of trust that opens the patient to hear more about their existing conditions and your concerns for them. By making connections with them over what is possible to achieve and what they want to achieve, you create a bond that opens the patient to your expert perspectives. When you ask for and respect their input on solutions, they are more likely to commit to a solution. 

When a new patient needs urgent treatment, how can we meet those treatment needs and still commence a lifetime journey toward health with the patient? 

Of course, we want to help our patients with immediate treatment when disease conditions are acute, but we want to do so in a way that inspires the patient to see the bigger, more comprehensive health picture. We want to help them see health as a journey and see us as empathetic fellow travelers who understand their suffering. As we facilitate dialogue about the health outcomes of treatment, we uncover their broader health aspirations. 

We intentionally deliver the message that we are here for them. We are interested in them and care about them as a person, and we let them know they can count on us to help them become healthier and maintain achieved levels of health. We do not allow the fact that the patient needed immediate relief to get in the way of a long-term commitment to their overall health.  

How do we engage our patients in being curious about their total health? 

At every visit, we can invite them into conversation about their health. The questions you ask will shape the conversation. Instead of “Any changes in your health history?” you might begin with, “How has your health been since the last time we were together?” Pause and listen to learn about your patient’s experiences, opinions, and feelings.  

In my experience, this process respects the physician that lives within each patient and leads to continuous co-discovery and collaboration toward health. Every conversation can empower the patient a little bit more to become clearer about their knowledge, attitudes, beliefs, biases, and barriers. The insights developed over the lifetime of your relationship enable you to become a trusted advisor to your patients.  

By exposing your interest about a range of health issues (diabetes, heart disease, obstructive sleep apnea, weight loss, smoking cessation, stress reduction, etc.), they will see you as a professional with broad knowledge and a worthwhile perspective. They will see you as a valuable resource. They will see you as someone who knows about health and ¾ more important ¾ someone who knows them.  

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

One way to involve patients in making choices about their health is to ask for an invitation to give information. Everyone on the team can look for ways to get permission before taking action. For example, if the dentist observes bleeding or plaque while doing an initial exam, the dentists often say, “The hygienist will help you with that.” That’s okay but getting an invitation for the hygienist is even more helpful. Instead of telling the patient what the hygienist will do, the dentist could ask for an invitation. “Would you like the hygienist to help you with that when you see her?” Patients typically say yes, and that sets the hygienist up for a different conversation when she sees that patient.  

When the hygienist sees a note that the patient wants some help removing deposits in a certain area, she has been invited to give information. The hygienist can say, “So, I understand from the doctor that you’d like to have some help with being more effective at removing the deposits that are around this tooth on the lower right.” 

In this circumstance, I might ask the patient, “What have you tried in cleaning that area?” I pause and allow the patient to think and speak. Perhaps they would demonstrate how they brush or floss in that area. If I do make a recommendation to a patient, I like to follow it with, “Is that something you’d like to try?” 

The dentist and hygienist are a team, and the patient is the third team member in partnering for health. In ideal practice, all clinical and front office team members are part of the collaboration and share their understanding of the patient with each other. Many times, especially with elderly patients, I find there is a family member who is a health partner, and we can invite them to participate in consultations. In dentistry, when we become trusted health advisors to our patients, we can also influence their choices in other areas of their health.  

When we listen well, we can filter our information through the lens of improving overall health. We can make connections between their perspective and our own. When we understand the patient as an individual with special circumstances, opinions, and emotions, we can help them get in touch with their own aspirations for health and help them move toward those goals.  

By John C. Cranham, DDS 

Every dentist finds it challenging to take time to train their team members.

Here are a couple of examples of how I’ve added time to my own day by advancing my team’s skills:

 I fired myself as the practice photographer. My goal was to have multiple people in my office who know our intraoral and extraoral image protocols and who can take the photos at the same high level of quality. To do this, I built “training time” in our schedule to teach photography. Now, while the patient is in the chair, I have the “photographer” show me the photos. We look at them quickly. Occasionally there is one that needs to be retaken, and I will explain why. The quality has become consistently high. By having multiple photographers in the office, my primary dental assistant can focus on something else when needed.  When I am working up a case, I often show them why I needed a specific photo. They take interest in their part of the process and the case. Engagement in their work rises. Always clearly share the why. 

I’ve also trained my team on how to fabricate deprogrammers. I’ve trained them all, checked their work, and explained the why behind our standard. We now have four people who can do that, too. This means we have a good product we offer patients and get it out in a timely manner when my primary assistant is busy.  When it comes to training your team, you will set a standard, and your team needs to know you are serious about it, but you can do this without being stern or making them feel bad. For example, in my office, if they take a bad photo or make an unacceptable deprogrammer, I explain why and ask them to retake the photo or remake the deprogrammer. As they redo something, they learn from their mistakes. I am patient with them. I tell them I made the same mistakes while I was learning. 

By Paul A. Henny, DDS, and Deborah E. Bush, MA 

The traditional rational economic model used in classical decision-making theory routinely fails to predict patient behavior because it fails to consider the psychology of decision-making and the inductive neuro process necessary to change one’s mind about what is best for oneself. 

Classic Decision Theory 

Classic Decision Theory (CDT) models a decision-making process that involves a fixed set of alternatives about which a person knows little. In response, they relate their limited knowledge to the situation at hand, use their beliefs and expectations associated with the options to project an outcome, and then use logic to make the final decision based on their goals. 

According to this theory, people primarily make decisions based on their desire to maximize gains and minimize losses, an objective. This deductive process is largely driven by a heuristic known as “scarcity bias.” However, anyone who has practiced dentistry for more than a day outside of a teaching institution knows that CDT fails to explain many of the decisions patients make when they’re confronted with a complex problem they don’t fully understand.  

Simple decisions such as “Should I get this filling replaced because it’s broken?” or “Should I allow Dr. Smith to help me make this tooth stop hurting?” are predictable. What’s much less predictable is whether a person will allow us to equilibrate their occlusion or leverage restorative dentistry to reestablish proper form, function, esthetics, and neuromuscular modulation. Why? Because these are complex issues that require an understanding of how the stomatognathic system works before the proposed solution makes sense and appears to be the logical best option to the patient. 

Neuroeconomics is an interdisciplinary field that aims to explain human decision-making. By integrating psychology and neuroscience, this discipline can help us better understand how humans process alternatives to make choices and follow through on a plan of action. Neuroscience affirms that re-evaluating perspectives is a right-brain activity and an inductive process. 

The Dentist’s Challenge  

In practice, we often see patients making decisions we think are unwise for their long-term oral health. A person’s values and belief system influence their decisions. Not only may the person’s understanding and belief system be underdeveloped in relation to the value of properly planned, designed, and executed health-centered restorative dentistry, but their memories may be distorted. In this case, the person makes what we perceive to be unwise decisions because their memories do not align well with our understanding of the situation. They don’t know what we know.  

Helping Patients Think and Feel Differently Through Inductive Reasoning 

Reassessment, modification, or outright replacement of beliefs is a right-brain process known as inductive reasoning. The purpose of Co-Discovery is to take the patient through an inductive reasoning process. Oral health providers who understand how and why Co-Discovery works have experienced how it can change the trajectory of a person’s decision-making process. 

Our challenge is to create an optimal learning environment in which people can safely reevaluate their beliefs, values, and priorities. Being patient with patients and taking our time to guide them through the inductive process of Co-Discovery will comfortably provoke new thinking, new beliefs, and new emotions. Through the process, a great many patients come to realize that their historical perspective is not serving them well, and they decide to have that equilibration or restorative dentistry that will serve them best in the long-term.  

They may not choose treatment the first time it is recommended but will subsequently realize it is in their best interest. We just have to stay in conversation with them in Co-Discovery mode and guide them through the inductive process to arrive at their new goals.  

Long-term, this is healthier for dentists and their care teams as well. The conversations we have with patients change the trajectory of our dental practices. Better conversations result in better decisions, which in turn result in better outcomes. Better outcomes result in lower stress and a thriving practice that is much more fulfilling for dentists and care team members.   

By Phillip Gold, Master CDT 

At a lecture in Atlanta a few years ago, Dr. John Cranham told us about a patient who had been in his practice for years and mostly came in for hygiene and emergency visits. She moved out of town for about a year and then returned to their dental practice. 

She made a hygiene appointment and when John walked in to greet her, he saw a woman with a beautiful smile. He was almost speechless. When he gained his composure, he remarked on the beautiful dentistry she had achieved while she was away. He asked her what got her excited enough to get the work done.  

She said, “I’ve always wanted to do something like this but I didn’t know who could do it.” When he explained that they do dentistry like this all the time she said, “I had no idea, I thought you only did emergencies and patch work.” 

How do you rebound from that? You make it a lesson learned and one you do not want to repeat! 

How do you spread the word?  

• Website Communication: 

Your practice website serves as a virtual front door. Make sure it clearly communicates all the services you provide. Consider creating separate pages or sections on your website dedicated to each service. Provide detailed information, FAQs, and before-and-after photos to show your expertise. 

Don’t fail to inform them of payment options that will make it easier for them to afford the dentistry they desire. 

• Smile Galleries and Visual Displays: 

Smile galleries in your office can be powerful tools. Display before-and-after photos of actual patients who have undergone various treatments. Seeing these transformations can inspire curiosity and interest. Also use photo books or digital displays in your reception area to showcase successful cases. Patients waiting for their appointments can browse through these visuals and learn about available services. 

• Social Media Engagement: 

Leverage social media platforms to highlight your services. Regularly post content related to different treatments, patient testimonials, and educational videos. Share success stories, patient experiences, and behind-the-scenes glimpses of your practice. Encourage patients to follow your social media accounts to stay informed. 

• Team Training and Communication: 

Train your team members to discuss services confidently. Encourage team members to engage in friendly conversations with patients. When patients ask questions, provide informative answers and emphasize the benefits of specific treatments. 

• Handouts and Placards: 

Create simple handouts or placards that outline your services. These can be placed in the waiting area, treatment rooms, or given to patients during their visits. Include brief descriptions of each service, along with any special features (e.g., same-day services).  

• Educational Events and Seminars: 

Host occasional events or seminars at your practice. Invite existing patients and potential new patients. Use these events to discuss different treatments, demonstrate procedures (if possible), and answer questions. It’s an excellent opportunity to engage directly with patients. 

Remember, patients often don’t realize the full scope of what a dental practice can offer. By proactively sharing information, you empower them to make informed decisions about their oral health. 

By Mary Osborne, RDH 

Dr. Rachel Naomi Remin says, “Doctor, you may know what’s best for the disease the patient has but that’s not the same as knowing what’s best for the patient.”  

It’s difficult to let go of our own assumptions about what we’re supposed to do, how healthy this person should be based on our criteria, and what is the best path forward in every situation. Our clinical training leads us to believe that we’re supposed to know what’s best for our patient. 

There is another quote, from Dr. Albert Schweitzer, which has challenged my thinking about patient care for a long time:  

“Patients carry their own doctor inside.”  

I believe that every one of us has opinions, ideas, and knowledge about our own health. That is the doctor inside. Dr. Schweitzer said patients come to us knowing we have expertise, but “we are at our best when we give the physician who resides within each patient a chance to go to work.” When we do that, we help people become healthier. 

There is a place for our solutions. There is a place for our expertise to show up. But if we slow ourselves down a half step, we are often amazed at the answers patients come up with. They can be downright creative and elegant. The reason they are elegant is because they are their solutions, and patients are more likely to follow through with solutions they conceive. I’m not saying we shouldn’t guide them to understanding the advantages and disadvantages of their solutions and other possibilities that you we know are out there, but we should be open to allowing them to think about solutions and not prejudge their choices. 

For example, if a patient says she or he doesn’t have time to floss, I was trained to say, “Well, don’t you watch the evening news? You can do it while you’re watching the news. Right?” That’s about me having the solution. But now I sit back and say to the patient, “Well, it sounds like you’re very busy. Is there any time at all during the day when you’re sitting, and you feel that you could floss easily?” When I ask the question, they usually have a better answer than the nightly news. It’s a better solution because it’s their solution. They have bought into it at some level.  

In many cases, we see the “treatment” for a problem as we’re seeing the problem. That’s something that we take a great deal of pride in. But when we come together with our patient, sitting eye to eye, we can often come to a much more elegant treatment plan, one that moves us more comprehensively toward our goal of improved health. In between what is and what is possible, we encourage the patient to discover the level of health to which they aspire. We come to mutual agreement about going forward in a certain way to accomplish some things that are bigger and better than just solving “a problem.”